Is Common Courtesy Gone For Good?

Politeness is the cornerstone on any civilized society. In essence, it is respect for other people's feelings. This respect is reflected in both thought and action . . . in considering other people's points of view and behaving in sensitive ways. Unfortunately, in many areas of life, politeness seems to be outdated. Please understand, I am no "Miss Manners"(or "Mr. Manners" for that matter), but simple manners are essential in effective relationships. Regardless of the relationship, simple manners communicate that other people are important and that they matter.

Three Simple Manners

Say Please - How many times were we reprimanded as children for grabbing something without asking, "Please, may I have this?" A person who consistently does not say please indicates that he or she feels entitled to have something without asking. Saying please communicates value to the person both asking and being asked.

Say Thank You - The Bible tells a story of how Jesus healed ten lepers of their disease. They immediately began to celebrate, and in their excitement, nine of them did not think to return to thank Jesus. Were they grateful? Absolutely. Then why didn't they express their gratitude? Perhaps they were too busy or just did not think of it; or they thought Jesus would know they were thankful. In any case, only one took the time to return and say a simple, "Thank You." When was the last time you expressed gratitude to the waiter at the restaurant, an attendant at the car wash, your associates at work, or even those at home? It is amazing -- the power of "Thank You."

Respect Others - We live in an incredibly diverse society. Different backgrounds, different religions, and different values are all pervasive in America. There is a difference between disagreeing and disrespecting. Always treat people with respect - - even when you disagree with them - - perhaps especially if you disagree with them. There is never a good reason to show disrespect for another person.

"So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you." Matthew 7:12

Here is a wonderful relationship principle: Treat others the way you want to be treated. We all want to be treated as someone special, someone loved, someone respected, or someone valued. How can you do this? Simple: Treat them the same way you want to be treated! Treat others with simple, common courtesy! It shows that you value others!