Dr. Redd's Prescriptions for Life

What Do You Do When You Have Been Betrayed?

2010-06-23T15:47:00.000-07:00

Betrayal is a weapon found only in the hands of the ones you love. Your enemy has no such tool, for only a friend can betray. Betrayal is a violation of trust, an inside job. It would be easier if it was a stranger, a random attack or that you were a victim of circumstance. But betrayal isn't like that. When you are betrayed, you are the victim of a friend.

It is more than rejection. Rejection opens a wound, betrayal pours the salt.
It's more than loneliness. Loneliness leaves you in the cold, betrayal closes the door.
It is more than mockery. Mockery plunged the knife, betrayal twists it.
It is more than as insult. An insult attacks your pride, betrayal breaks your heart.

When betrayal comes, what do you do? Get out? Get angry? Get even? You have to deal with it somehow. How did Jesus treat being betrayed.

Jesus Called Judas Friend

(Matthew 26:50 NIV) "Jesus replied, "Friend, do what you came for." Then the men stepped forward, seized Jesus and arrested him."

Of all the names I would have chosen for Judas it would have not been friend. What Judas did was grossly unfair. There is no indication that Jesus ever mistreated Judas. There is no clue that Judas was ever left out or neglected. When, during the Last Supper, Jesus told the disciple that His betrayer sat at the table, they didn't turn to one another and whisper, "It's Judas. Jesus told us he would do that!"

It is even more unfair when you consider that they betrayal was Judas's idea. The religious leaders didn't seek him, Judas sought them. Judas went to them and asked how much he could get for Jesus. Somehow the betrayal might have been more palatable or understandable if Judas had been propositioned by the leader, but he wasn't. He propositioned them.

Then he betrayed Him by calling Him Teacher - a title of respect. Then the kiss - an exchange between friends - a expression of affection. Nothing that Judas said or did warranted such a response from Jesus.

Jesus Understood Judas Had Been Seduced by a Powerful Foe

Jesus was aware of Satan's whispers in Judas's ear. He was aware how powerful and cunning they could be. After all, Jesus had heard them for Himself. This was no demon or even demons that was after Judas, this was Satan himself.

Jesus knew how hard it was for Judas to do what was right. He didn't justify what Judas did. He didn't minimize the deed. Not did He release Judas from his choice. But He did look eye to eye with His betrayer and try to understand. As long as you hate your betrayer, a jail door is closed and a prisoner is taken. But when you try to understand and release your foe from your hatred, then the prisoner is released and that prisoner is you.

Perhaps you don't like that idea. Perhaps the thought of forgiveness is unrealistic to you. Perhaps the idea of trying to understand your Judases is simply to gracious.

What do you suggest? Does harboring anger solve the problem? Will getting even remove the hurt? Does hatred do any good? The hurt should not be minimized, nor should one justify the actions of a betrayer, but we must understand that justice won't come this side of eternity and demanding that your betrayer gets his or hers share of pain. will in the process, be most painful to you. Life is not fair. God never said that it would be.

(John 16:33 NIV) ""I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.""

Troubles are part of the package. As long as you are here on earth there are going to be betrayals, disappointments, death, sickness and sin. That is all part of the troubles and tribulation that come with living here on planet earth. Don't look for fairness here - look instead where Jesus looked.

Jesus Looked to the Future

(Matthew 26:64 NIV) ""Yes, it is as you say," Jesus replied. "But I say to all of you: In the future you will see the Son of Man sitting at the right hand of the Mighty One and coming on the clouds of heaven.""

While going through hell on earth, Jesus kept His Eyes of heaven.
While surrounded by enemies, He kept His Mind of His Father.
While abandoned on earth, He kept His Heart on Home.

Jesus took a long look into the homeland. Long enough to see His friends.

(Matthew 26:53 NIV) "Do you think I cannot call on my Father, and he will at once put at my disposal more than twelve legions of angels?"

And seeing them up there gave Him strength here on earth.

So what should we do when we are Betrayed?

Offer them Compassion.
Offer them Understanding.
Keep your Eyes Focused on Jesus Christ.

(Hebrews 12:1-2 NIV) "Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. {2} Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God."

I can't do this - it's impossible!

Philippians 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ which strengths me."

Adapted from Max Lucado

A Biblical Understanding of Trials - Part One

2009-09-23T13:41:00.000-07:00

A Biblical Understanding of Trials

"Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed." (1 Peter 4:12-13)

What is the Purpose of Trials?

A trial is the process of proving the quality or worth of something or someone. Trials are tests of your faith, patience or endurance through the process of suffering.

Three primary Greek words are translated as "trial" in the New Testament. Each has a slightly different emphasis in meaning, yet they all reveal God's purpose for trials and suffering.

Dokimion... proven faith - A testing trial in which your faith is proved genuine. - "These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed." (1 Peter 1:7)

Purosis... refined character - A fiery trial through which your character is refined, as gold is refined (implies suffering). - "Do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you." (1 Peter 4:12)

Peirasmos... tested commitment - trial or temptation through which the quality of your commitment is tested.

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." (James 1:2-4)

God Meant if for Good - Genesis 37-50

Wherever he went, young Joseph incited resentment and jealousy. This favored child of Jacob needed refining, and it was no wonder that his brothers determined to do away with him after he bragged that one day they would bow down to him (see Genesis 37:5-11). Joseph's story illustrates how God smooths the rough edges of our character by various trials and testings that build confidence in His purpose and provision for us.

The sands of abrasion were very real in Joseph's life, for God used his trials of rejection and suffering and years of undeserved punishment to soften him. Joseph's self-centered spirit was replaced with compassion even for those who had tried to harm him (see Genesis 45:8-11). More importantly, Joseph learned to trust God. His most powerful pronouncement was made when he told his brothers, "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives" (Genesis 50:20).

"The God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast." (1 Peter 5:10)

What are Some Truth About Trials?

Trials are experienced by everyone. - Do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you." (1 Peter 4:12)

Trials have a divine purpose. - "Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us." (Romans 5:3-5)

Trials last only for a while. - "In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials." (1 Peter 1:6)

Trials are controlled by God. - "God... will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear." (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Trials strengthen you in your weaknesses. - "I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong." (2 Corinthians 12:10)

Trials come with God's grace for endurance. - "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." (2 Corinthians 12:9)

What Process is Possible During Trials?

Little apple seeds that grow into large apple trees go through a process of change. A process is marked by a series of natural, gradual changes that lead toward an end result. This is exactly what God has in mind when He allows trials to enter your life. If, like the seed, you are willing to die to self, God will begin a process in you that can result in great spiritual growth.

"Unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds." (John 12:24)

The Process ... In the Psalms

Trials turn you to God. - "As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God? My tears have been my food day and night, while men say to me all day long, 'Where is your God?' These things I remember as I pour out my soul: how I used to go with the multitude, leading the procession to the house of God, with shouts of joy and thanksgiving among the festive throng. Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God." (Psalm 42:1-6)

Trials bring God to you. - "You hear, O Lord, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry." (Psalm 10:17)

Trials motivate you to cry out to God. - "I cry aloud to the Lord; I lift up my voice to the Lord for mercy. I pour out my complaint before him; before him I tell my trouble. When my spirit grows faint within me, it is you who know my way. In the path where I walk men have hidden a snare for me." (Psalm 142:1-3)

Trials lead to personal examination. - "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting." (Psalm 139:23-24)

Trials draw you back to God's will. - "Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I obey your word." (Psalm 119:67)

Trials draw you to God's Word. - "It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might learn your decrees." (Psalm 119:71)

Trials produce a hatred of sin. - "Since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because he who has suffered in his body is done with sin." (1 Peter 4:1)

Trials produce a heart of humility. - "Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time." (1 Peter 5:6)

"Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy." (Psalm 126:5)

How Do You Handle Critics???

2009-09-20T14:52:00.000-07:00

John Mason in You’re Born An Original, Don’t Die A Copy, writes, “You can always spot a failure by the way he criticizes success. Those who can – do. Those who can not – criticize. Those who complain about the way the ball bounces are often the ones who dropped it in the first place. If it were not for the doers, the critics would soon be out of business. Envy provides the mud that failures throw at success. Whoever criticizes to you will criticize about you. If someone belittles you, he is only trying to cut you down to his size.”

So, How Does One Handle The Critics?

One should listen to it & evaluate the merit of it. - Evaluate the merit of the criticism independent of the person: Is the critic accurate? Do they have a legitimate concern? Often this involves time of speculation and prayer. This is why it is good to surround yourself with godly people who can help you with this process. “Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance—“ (Proverbs 1:5 NIV)

Secondly, look at the source of the criticism. - What is their intent? Do they have an agenda in mind? Are they chronic complainers? “Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right.” (Proverbs 20:11 NIV)

Finally, determine if action should be taken, whether it be a change or an apology. - Correction and self-control will lead you through life.” (Proverbs 6:23b)

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly, who errs and comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; who does actually try to do the deed; who knows great enthusiasm, the great devotion and spends himself in a worthy cause; who are the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”

April 10th, 1899, Theodore Roosevelt

Two Important Words!

2009-09-18T20:52:00.000-07:00

Two Very Important Words!

A while back, I picked up a book called Heart at Work compiled by Jack Canfield & Jacqueline Miller. In the book, Steve Wilson tells the story of Norman Guitry was giving a lecture to group of freshman students preparing for service in the Mental Health field. What he said was remarkable:

"Everything you need to know about mental heath can be summed up in only two words. Ninety-five percent of the mental health problems we deal with today could be eliminated if everyone would practice this two word prescription, if everyone would live by these two words."

What are the two words?? Don't Belittle

He went on, "Don't belittle. Don't put people down. Don't make anyone feel small. Don't be judgmental or critical in ways that diminish another people's sense of themselves. Most of the problems of crime and abuse, academic failures, problems between bosses and workers, broken homes and addictions can be traced to low self-esteem. Don't belittle. Remember it. Teach it. Live it."

What Does The Bible Have To Say About This?

FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE IN OTHERS - You will find what you are looking for everytime!
"Keep your mind on what is true, pure, right, holy friendly and proper. Don't ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise." Philippians 4:8

LIFT UP AND ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER - Treat People the way that you want them to treat you! "You must encourage and help each other!" 1 Thessalonians 5:11

SPEAK WORDS THAT HELP AND HEAL RATHER THAN WORDS THAT HURT AND DESTROY. Words do matter! Sharp words cut like a sword, but words of wisdom heal." Proverbs 12:18

"Words Can Bring Death or Life! Talk too much and you will eat everything you say! Proverbs 18:21 (CEV)

Use your words wisely today! Build Up Others! Are you using your words to build others up or tear someone down?

Right or Wrong? That is the Question!

2009-09-15T19:48:00.001-07:00

How many times, usually while watching the evening news, have you asked yourself the question, “How could they not know what they were doing was wrong?” It is amazing how seemingly wise and sane people can be blinded or demonstrate such a disregard for doing what is right.

How do you determine what is right and wrong? Years ago, Harry Emmerson Fosdick, professor at Union Theological Seminary, developed a formula that helped him determine right from wrong. It is incredibly practical as we struggle with that same challenge today.

Six Ways To Tell Right From Wrong

The Common Sense Test - Are you simply being foolish? How would you judge someone else if they did the same thing? “For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:2 NIV

The Sportsmanship Test - Are you playing fair? How would you feel if someone else did the same thing to you? If it is not right for everyone, it is probably not right for anyone. “Treat others the way you would want them to treat you.” Matthew 7:12 CEV

The Best Self-Test - Are you trying to be the best that you can be? Will it help you become a better person? “Work hard at whatever you do.” Ecclesiastes 9:10 CEV

The Publicity Test - If everyone knew what you were doing, would you still do it? It is surprising how the light of public knowledge changes our perspective and our behavior. “In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:16 NIV

The Most Admired Person Test – Would the person you most admired do this? If you told that person about it, would you feel proud or ashamed? “Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.” 1 Peter 2:21 NIV

The Foresight Test – What can possibly go wrong? Could you live with the consequences? “Do not brag about tomorrow! Each day brings its own surprises.” Proverbs 27:1 CEV

Right is right, even if everyone is against it; and wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it. William Penn

So ... I'm Worried I May Be Worrying too Much......

2009-08-05T15:54:00.000-07:00

First - the good news - Most people who worry are usually the more intelligent among us. (smile) You see, worry is just the misuse of a creative imagination filling our minds with "What if's." And usually, the more intelligent you are, the more creative you can be, the more "options" you dream up to worry about. So, if you aren't very intelligent ... uh ... don't worry about it. (smile)

So ... assuming you are intelligent ... let's think our way through this with a little logic. Think for a second ...

40% of what we worry about will never happen.
30% of the stuff we worry about has already happened ... and we can't change any of that
12% is needless health worries .... (I have a head ache ... thus I must have a brain tumor)
10% is worrying about what people think of us... (really ... since when can we really control that?)
8% - what we have left over for legitimate worries.

So .... We spend most of the time so worrying about the 92% we are so paralyzed by fear we can't deal with the 8% that matters! It can be exhausting worrying about all those things you have absolutely no control over whatsoever!!!

Now some people say they worry so much they just can't focus on that "illusive" 8%. Well ... isn't worry at it core focus? When we worry ... don't we focus in - laser in - rollover in our minds - that which we are worried (focused) about?

So .... if worrying is focusing on the the wrong things .... then what is the opposite of worry?

Class? Hello? Bueler ... Bueler .... Bueler ....

How about Thankfulness - Gratitude - Appreciation? Worrying is focusing on what "may" go wrong - thankfulness is focusing on what "has" gone right.

Now then ... what about the 8%???? What do we do with that? Stick our head in the sand?? Nope - Faith is looking at the 8% square in the eyes and trusting that God will. God will what? Yes. God will provide. God will care. God will lead. God just will. That is having faith that God will do what He says.

So .... Where is your focus? On what might go wrong? or What has gone and is going right? And ... how is your faith quotient? When you look at the 8% of legitimate stuff - do you really thing God will keep His word? Or do you worry that it is all up to you? (smile)

EXERCISE: Take the first 10 minutes of your day - each day for the rest of your week - get a pencil and pad and write down (DON'T JUST THINK) the things that are right in your life. What you have to be thankful for. First of all ... you have internet access ... (WHOO HOO) ... probably 80% of the world doesn't. Second of all you are well fed .. (some of you more well than others ... ah hem) ... you eat better than 95% of the people in the world. You had a bed last night with AC (most of you) ... billions didn't. You have a spouse that loves/tolerates you? There are some reading this right now that would love that. Should I go on???? Or do you get the picture? So take a few minutes in the morning ... start your list. (No Bragging .... "I am thankful for my 2010 Corvette and my Supermodel Wife! ... grin)

So how bout it boys and girls????

SCRIPTURE REFERENCE: Matthew 6:25-34
Adapted from "The Noticer" by Andy Andrew

American Idol - Danny Gokey - Letting Go

2009-04-29T10:12:00.000-07:00

I don’t know how many of you are American Idol Fans – but there is one competitor, Danny Gokey who is in the top five. He is a church music director. A few months ago, he lost his wife in a heart surgery very unexpectedly. He posted this on his “MySpace page” and I truly feel it is worth passing along.

Letting Go": Necessary Steps in Moving Forward. - Danny Gokey

One lesson I’ve learned from children that has had tremendous power in my life is “letting go”. If you have ever had to intervene in a bout between two children fighting over a toy, you'll notice the emotions running high, tears streaming down each child's face, and their precious hearts torn from what was perceived in their eyes as a huge conflict. After you correct them and settle the situation, within five minutes they have already restored their relationship between their former foe and are having even more fun than previously before the fight. Their hearts have not yet accepted or entertained the idea of depositing the seeds of bitterness or anger.

A child exercises the ability to let go of the hurtful situation and they move forward in their relationship with one another in life (notice how they always enjoy life because they don't harbor harmful emotions). I've noticed in my life that when my heart has gripped around a certain hurtful situation from the past, it hinders me from being able to move forward and fully enjoy living.

The most relevant situation that I can share with you is when my wife passed away. The emotions from losing my spouse were overwhelming, not to mention all the previous years of doctors visits, hospital stays, and the hardest thing of all having to watch my wife cry at times because of the pain. This all led up to the final outcome. Doctors told me she only had a 10% chance of dying during this operation and I felt we exhausted our options financially, spiritually, physically, and medically yet nothing worked. I was shocked from the sudden loss and left with the hounding questions: “why me” and “why her”, with an overwhelming pit of despair. Through that situation I became vulnerable to emotions I didn't want but barely resisted because of my analytical mind trying to reason every little detail. Bitterness, anger and resentment began to fill my mind and started to take root in my heart, which launched me into a 3 month deep depression. You see, I know many people would say that is normal. I do believe this is true within a certain balance, but I know in my heart of hearts what I was going through was not normal. I felt like I had to put on a face for everybody to cover what was really going on inside. Deep down inside, I felt there was not hope for me and I really wanted to die. If I had not dealt with this, it probably could have somehow or someway took me out. So, I began pray and cry out to God for help and I believe I found the answer.

The answer I found was exactly this; "let go" or "cause yourself to let go". I admit that answer was not appealing to me because I found no justice in it, and most of all it didn't instantly remove any pain. But I knew that if I continued down this road it would have a price that I could never afford to pay. You see, the cost of hanging on to the bitterness and anger was actually much greater than the cost of simply letting go. I was very reluctant to do it. At times it was hard and I literally had to cause myself (force myself) to let go. Letting go doesn't mean forgetting about Sophia but does mean releasing the toxic emotions tied to the situation. However, I can tell you today that I am able to enjoy life more and I'm grabbing hold of new opportunities that would have otherwise been lost. I’m not buried in my bed under my sheets at home being angry at the world and God, but I’m in the stages of healing because my heart is not bound by resentment. I’m able to see how her life and heart can touch countless others through this foundation and other avenues in her honor.

I’m an advocate of protecting the heart. Your heart is your real set of eyes. What I mean by that is that if your heart has become evil through seeds of anger and hate, you will interpret life and every person’s actions through those negative eyes. A person might come shake your hand and compliment you at work, and your heart might analyze what they have done as having some kind of hidden motive or agenda. You might spend countless hours wondering why they’re out to get you. On the other hand, if you have a pure heart you would shake your co-workers hand, accept their compliment and be touched by their kindness.

When I let go, that is when I was able move forward. The doorway to your future and destiny is only big enough for you to walk through, not you and your past. Past and future don't mix. It’s either one or the other. If you hold on to your past, your future will only be revisiting that past over and over again. I know it seems hard and it’s not the answer you might want to hear, but take it from someone who has been there. I can tell you, it has been 1,000 times better to just let go than it was to hang on and demand answers and justice. So many families are torn apart because of people’s unwillingness to let go by forgiving and forgetting. Many people tend to think that terrible situations and terrible relationships will somehow fix themselves. They think that emotions of anger and unforgiveness will bring about justice; yet scientific studies link those emotions to many harmful diseases, which often lead to an early death.

I've made a choice to be free. I've made a choice to cherish and be thankful for the wonderful times I shared with Sophia. It’s not easy. Some mornings I'll wake up and be plagued with anger and sadness, yet I CHOOSE to release those emotions and I CHOOSE to exercise gratefulness, which always makes for a better day. With that powerful principal, I was able to remove from my heart the roots and growth planted by the seeds of bitterness, and I allowed the seeds of thankfulness and joy take its place. Soon, I believe it won’t be as much of a battle because my heart will only harvest and cultivate those attributes.

I strongly urge you to examine your life, release and let go once and for all those things that have held you back. It could be a harmful self-image, disappointments, setbacks, wrong relationships or anything else that hold you in the pit of your past and keeps you from embracing your present and future. Become like a child and don't let your heart hang on to those things, but let it always bounce back with new hopes and second chances. The best is yet to come for you! Believe it, it’s yours for the taking!

Have a Blessed Day and be careful what you hold on too.

Mark

Kuna Indian Chief

2009-03-15T17:59:00.001-07:00

2009-01-28T10:35:00.001-08:00

Choices

2009-01-13T13:54:00.000-08:00

Just some thoughts after preaching a 17 year old's Funeral.

When Your Expectations Aren't Met

2008-05-28T22:05:00.000-07:00

There have been many occasions I have been disappointed, or had expectations that were not met. Over the past few years, God has led me to some principles from His Word that has given me guidance.

Philippians 4:4 (NIV) Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.

In this passage there are several things God lead me to understand.

1) vs. 4 - Rejoice in what God is doing. God is always at work. He is at work in my life, my church, my family and my community. There are times I see it, times I don’t. There are times I understand it, and times I don’t. There are even times I don’t like it – having God work in your life usually causes much pain and discomfort for a season – that is often very traumatic and difficult. But none the less, God is at work – are we are urged – even commanded to rejoice in that fact.

2) vs. 5 - Let your gentleness be evident to everyone. Interestingly enough, the Greek work for “gentleness” is also translated “patience” in other places. I often struggle with being patient before the Lord. But Paul says that I am to demonstrate my patience in such a way that it is evident to all who watch me. That patience is evident in the way I deal with people, with situations and even or perhaps especially, in dealing with disappointment.

3) vs. 6 – Go to God with everything. It seems in this verse that I face a choice: I can either take it to God in prayer or be anxious and feel that it is my job to solve or fix everything. I am coming to the conclusion that only God can change a person’s heart – and until that heart is changed, there is really nothing I can do. As pastor, I am called to preach/teach, model, lead and speak the truth in love – all to the glory of God. I have tried to get people to change patterns of life, change sinful habits, even modify responses to life’s situations – but ultimately, none of that will be lastingly changed until God changes a heart. So rather than fretting about it, if I understand this scripture correctly, I am to take it to Him in prayer and trust Him for the outcome. I still struggle with this one … (smile).

4) vs. 7 – Allow the peace of God to rule my heart and mind. When I do the things listed above, there is a peace that only God can give. Again, I would love to tell you that I experience this peace all the time, but I would be lying. (grin) However, I have experienced this peace often enough to know that it is possible – and that it is not something that I can find in any other place than total obedience to Him.

5) vs. 8 – Choose to focus on what is pleasing to God. On any given Sunday I can find what I truly want to find when I come to worship. It is totally and completely up to me what I choose to focus or dwell on. There are Sunday’s where people have been saved, baptized that I come away frustrated because I chose to focus and dwell on something other than what was pleasing to God. On those Sundays, those people were still saved, lives were still touched, God was honored, but I forfeited my right to experience the blessing because I was disobedient to God by choosing to dwell, focus or concentrate on something that might have not been to my liking or perhaps even to His liking. This is where I face a great challenge weekly – there isn’t a week when everything goes right and everybody is happy. So what do I choose to focus on? What do I choose to ingest into my heart? What do I choose to talk about? What do I choose to fill my thoughts with? It is totally up to me. And God will honor my choice with either a peace that passes all understanding or a heart and mind filled with turmoil, anxiousness, and misery.

Again – I wish I could tell you that I always get this right – I don’t. But when I don’t, it isn’t a problem with God’s Word, or even the situation that disappointed me, or the people around me, but rather it is an indication that I am knowingly choosing to disobey God and the principles of His Word. I have to remember to rejoice, for God is at work in my life.

Craig Biggio - Persistence

2007-06-30T16:16:00.000-07:00

Craig Biggio—3002 Hits and Counting

This last Thursday night, June 28th, was a magic night at Minute Maid Park. Houston Astro’s Craig Biggio got his 3,000th hit during the 8-5 victory over the Colorado Rockies. During the game, Biggio had 5 hits—with the last hit a classic Biggio single as he beat an infield grounder out for a single. This extended the game so that Carlos Lee could end it in grand fashion with a walk off Grand Slam Home Run. What a great night!

Over his 19 year career, Craig Biggio has demonstrated excellence as a Houston Astro—both on the field and off. In the words of his peers, he plays the game the right way. As I watched Biggio play, I remember watching him and how he always hustled and excelled as he played for the Astros. His is a future Hall of Famer. Look at the qualities of people who excel at what they do.

PEOPLE WHOM EXCEL WORK WITH ENTHUSIASM. Biggio has always had a great love and respect for the game, but he still plays the game with an unbridled enthusiasm. Regardless of whether the job is big or small, give it your best. Great performers give their best effort, no matter what the size of the audience. "Whatever your task is, put your whole heart and soul into it, as work done for the Lord, and not merely for men." Colossians 3:23

PEOPLE WHOM EXCEL SHARPEN THEIR SKILLS. They never stop developing... growing... learning... improving. "If the ax is dull, and its edge unsharpened, more strength is needed, but skill will bring success." Ecclesiastes 10:10 Whether playing catcher, center field, or second base, Biggio was constantly honing his skills—he was never complacent.

PEOPLE WHOM EXCEL KEEP THEIR WORD. They are reliable. They can be counted on to do what they say they will do. They excel because people of integrity are rare in our society. "Everyone talks about how loyal and faithful they are, but just try to find someone who really is!” Proverbs 20:6 Reliability beats talent in the long run.

PEOPLE WHOM EXCEL MAINTAIN A POSITIVE ATTITUDE. Even under pressure...or change...or unrealistic demands, they do not allow themselves to become negative. Biggio always pointed to the best in the team—even during difficult times. Complainers never excel at anything except complaining. "Do all things without grumbling or arguing...and you will shine out like a light in a dark world." Philippians 2:14-15 Remember "If the boss is angry with you, don't quit! A quiet spirit will quiet his bad temper!” Ecclesiastes 10:4

PEOPLE WHOM EXCEL DO MORE THAN IS EXPECTED. Every successful person has discovered this secret. In learning new positions, Biggio constantly took extra practice to be the best he could be. You will never excel by doing only what is required -- the bare minimum. Jesus said, "If anybody forces you to go a mile with him, do more, go two miles with him." Matthew 5:41

Craig Biggio has dedicated most of his adult life to being an excellent professional baseball player. What is it that you have committed to you adult life to? In what area are you going to excel? Shouldn’t we as Followers of Jesus excel in life?

FEAR - What are you afraid of?

2006-07-28T09:08:00.000-07:00

The Worst Liars In The World Are Your Own Fears

Flashback: It was 1978, I had just dropped off my date and made my way to my apartment, alone. It was dark, late and incredibly scary. We had just watched the first of what would be many of the Michael Myers' "Halloween" movies. I was scared. Although it was just a movie -- and at 18, I knew better I was still scared. When I walked into my apartment, I turned on the light, sat on the couch and listened. I heard things I had never heard before: noises -- creepy noises; and I was convinced I would not live through the night. Paralyzed with fear, I ended up sleeping on the couch. FEAR: False Emotions Appearing Real

It is funny now (some of you are even grinning), but perhaps you are fearful of things in your own life that are just as real as Michael Myers was to me that night. Maybe they even have you paralyzed, sleeping on the couch afraid to act. FEAR: False Emotions Appearing Real

Look At What Fear Does

Fear Makes You Stop Growing In Potential - Fear keeps your talents locked up, holds you back and causes you to miss opportunities. Are you afraid to try something new just because you are afraid? One of the greatest discoveries you can make is to find that you can do what you are afraid you cannot do.
Fear Makes You Stop Reaching Out In Your Relationships - Fear prevents you from being honest with people. You fear rejection, so you wear a mask, pretend to be what you are not, and then deny what you really feel. Fear also keeps you from making commitments. You may be afraid of being hurt again. Fear prevents true intimacy because fearful people have a hard time giving and receiving love. Your fears affect everyone you relate to.
Fear Makes You Stop Enjoying Life - You cannot be happy and fearful at the same time. An old man was asked what had robbed him of joy in his life. His answer was, "Things that never happened." How often are you worn out by your worries?
Fear Makes You Stop Striving For Success In Life - How many decisions have you made based on fear? How many times have you sold yourself short because of fear? False Emotions Appearing Real.

What Should You Do With Your Fears?

Pray - "Don’t worry about anything, but pray about everything." Philippians 4:6a CEV
Turn It over To God - "God cares for you, so turn all of your worries over to Him." 1 Peter 5:7 CEV
Trust Him - "When I am afraid, I keep trusting you. I praise your promises! I trust you and am not afraid. No one can harm me." Psalm 56:3-4 CEV

Leaving A Legacy

2006-07-15T19:10:00.000-07:00

July is a special month in the Redd household. I celebrated my 46th birthday this last week and my oldest son Joseph will celebrate his twelfth birthday at the end of the month. Nathan, my youngest, will be turning nine at the beginning of September. Both Sharon and I have our hands full!

During this last week, I was thinking what kind of a heritage I was leaving our boys.

The heritage I want to leave my boys is:

A Heritage of a Loving Family - I want my sons to know that I love and am committed to them. Not only them, but a gift that I can give my boys is to model for them a man that loves and honors his wife. A husband should love his wife as much as he loves himself. Ephesians 5:8
A Heritage of a Life that Mattered - It would be great for my boys to be able to watch me and see that I lived a life that mattered. A life that made a difference. A life that had purpose. Know where you are headed and you will stay on solid ground. Proverbs 4:26
A Heritage of Integrity - Honesty is something that is becoming more difficult to be able to find today. It really is all around us, but it is something that we have to look for to find it - its not pointed out to us very readily. I hope that my sons will be able to see the same man at Church as he does at home - a man who lives what he says. Never tell lies or be deceitful in what you say. Proverbs 4:24
A heritage of a Helper - I want both boys to know that people matter. They matter to God and they matter to me. If I had everything, all that money could buy, but did not love people, I would be nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:1-4 para
A Heritage of a Man Who Loved God - This really encapsulates all of the others, for if I do not love Him the way I should, all these other things will be out of balance. This is what God wants, See that justice is done, let mercy be your first concern, and humbly obey your God. Micah 6:8

Why is it so important that I think about these things now? Each day I am building their heritage. My boys watch me now, sometimes when I do not even know it.

What does this have to do with you? Simply this: What heritage are you leaving your family? What heritage are you leaving your co-workers? What heritage are you leaving those who know you? Remember, you are building your legacy, your heritage today. You are paving the road that those around you, family, friends and co-workers will follow. That is the role of a leader. Leadership is a privilege with great responsibility.

Build a great legacy - a day at a time - a decision at a time - a word at a time.

Integrity

2006-07-08T19:11:00.000-07:00

In the book, Developing the Leader Within You, John Maxwell wrote, “When people have integrity, their words and their deeds match up. They are whom they are no matter where they are or who they are with. People with integrity are not divided (that is duplicity) or merely pretending (that is hypocrisy). People with integrity have nothing to hide and nothing to fear. Their lives are open books.”

Integrity is indispensable for a person who wishes to lead others. Whether you lead as a father, mother, teacher, or C.E.O. – integrity is a staple that must be developed, cultivated, protected, and cherished in order to effectively lead.

Five ways to demonstrate integrity

I Will Live What I Teach – Deciding what to be is more important than deciding what to do. “Hold on to instruction, do not let it go; guard it well, for it is your life.” Proverbs 4:13
I Will Do What I Say – A person of integrity will do what they promised they would do. They will keep their word. “Simply let you ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ be ‘No’.” Matthew 5:37
I Will Be Honest With Others – When a leader loses credibility, he forfeits a trust that may never be regained. In any endeavor, trust and honesty allow individuals to cooperate so that they can all prosper. “I always speak the truth and refuse to tell a lie.” Proverbs 8:7
I Will Put What is Best for Others Ahead of What is Best For Me – A person of integrity will remember they are there to serve others rather than to be served. “Be humble and consider others more important than yourselves.” Philippians 2:3b
I Will Be Transparent and Vulnerable – A person can be closed and uncaring, but the people with the most genuine integrity will be those whose arms and hearts are open to those they lead. “When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.” Matthew 9:36

Be A Person of Integrity

I would be true, for there are those who trust me;
I would be pure, for there are those who care;
I would be strong, for there are those who suffer;
I would be brave, for there is much to dare;
I would be friend of all – the foe, the friendless;
I would be giving, and forget the gift;
I would be humble, for I know my weakness;
I would look up, and laugh, and love, and lift.
Howard A. Walter

Which Spud Are You?

2006-07-01T17:18:00.000-07:00

This Life Lesson is sure to have a lot of “groans” in it.. Just be patient: these things too shall pass. There are distinct personalities in every church, business, organization, and family. Some are good while others are not. Today, we are going to look at the Tater Family. First, we identify The Rotten Taters, and next, The Good Taters. See if you can identify these “taters” where you are. Even better, which tater are you?

THE ROTTEN TATER FAMILY

DICK TATER - He is the self-appointed leader. He has taken it upon himself to keep everyone else in their place by telling them what to do and when to do it. He feels it is his responsibility to keep everyone else straight.
SPECK TATER - When asked to participate in teamwork or projects, Speck says no. He says he just spectates. He comes, he watches, he goes home. He sees the needs but he figures it's someone else’s job.
AGI TATER - She keeps things stirred up by spreading some tale or story around about someone else. She is always ready with telephone in hand, ready to share the latest juicy story or tidbit about someone else. Agi- Tater really is a small-minded person with little or no self-worth. She feels that the only way she can look good is to make everyone else look bad.
HEZZI TATER – He is one that is never willing to make a decision. He is paralyzed by the fear of failure and is terrified by life’s “what ifs.” He is usually the last to join in and the first to bail out at any sign of trouble.
REGURGA TATER - He always brings things up from the past that did not agree with him. He is always looking back at how wonderful things were yesterday and how terrible things are today. Regurga-Tater is living in the past and missing the future; and while his head is turned towards yesterday, he is missing the opportunities for today.
COMMON TATER - All he ever does is talk about what needs to be done. He talks about what was done wrong and how he could have done it better; however, that is all he does: talk. An old Indian proverb would have described this tater as, “All thunder, no rain.”

THE GOOD TATER FAMILY

SWEET TATER - This person is an active team player. They have a sweet spirit and always finds the good in things . . . even when they have to look hard for it. “Finally, keep your minds on whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly and proper. Always focus on what is worthy of praise.” Philippians 4:8
EMMY TATER – This is one who found a successful person of integrity and modeled themselves after that person. There is a great deal of emphasis on mentoring – it is great when you have someone to follow. By the way, be careful, there are people imitating you! “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.” 1 Corinthians 11:1
FACILI TATER - This person is interested in helping others succeed. They want to see people grow and develop. They take great joy in helping people accomplish things and being successful. They enjoy helping people grow. “Encourage anyone who feels left out, help all who are weak, and be patient with everyone. Be good to each other and to everyone else.” 1 Thessalonians 5:14-15
RO TATER – This is a person who will rotate from one job to the next. They are willing to serve in whatever capacity asked. Wherever this person is and whatever one asks this person to do, you can rest assured that they will do it to the best of their ability and with a smile on their face. "So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God." 1 Corinthians 10:31

Live in harmony by showing love for each other. Be united in what you think, as if you were only one person. Do not be jealous, but be humble and consider others more important than yourselves. Care about them as much as you care about yourself! Philippians 2:2-4

Which Spud Are You?

Are You An Optimist?

2006-06-24T05:16:00.000-07:00

It is the classic illustration between the optimist and the pessimist. The optimist sees the glass as half-full, and the pessimist sees the glass as half-empty. Effective people are inevitably optimistic people. Do not confuse optimism with pie-in-the-sky, pollyanna thinking – though effective leaders are often dreamers – they are also realist. Effective people will cultivate and maintain a positive mental attitude.

Four Keys To Biblical Optimism

Focus on God instead of Self – There is no problem to great for God to handle. Focusing on God and knowing that He is aware and in control of the situation is a key to a positive outlook, even in times of trouble. When we continually focus on our circumstances or ourselves, we are in for an attitudinal tailspin.
Look to the Future and Learn from the Past – Refuse to dwell on past failures – learn the lessons and forget the details. Instead, focus on the present and anticipate the future.
Always Focus on a Goal – Goals keep us oriented toward achievement and moving forward. They help us know what we need to accomplish and when it needs to be accomplished.
View Problems as Opportunities for Improvement – Problems, setbacks, and disappointments are inevitable – they are part of life. Nevertheless, remember this: negative, defeatist attitudes produce negative, defeatist actions. Positive attitudes produce positive actions.

“Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14 NIV)

A bounty of $5,000 offered for each wolf captured and brought back alive turned Sam and Jed into fortune hunters. Day and night the scoured they mountains and forests, looking for their prey. Exhausted one night, they fell asleep dreaming of their potential fortune. Suddenly, Sam awoke to see that about 50 wolves with flaming eyes and bared teeth surrounded them. Nudging his friend, he exclaimed, “Jed, wake up. We’re Rich!”

Now That’s Optimism!!!

What Every Child Wants To Know

2006-06-17T18:41:00.000-07:00

With tomorrow being Father's Day, I believe that it is important for each father to read these thoughts. It goes without saying that there probably will be no other man more important in your child's life than their father. Every child wants to know the answer to these questions from their father.

It does not take a rocket scientist to look across our landscape and see many emotionally unhealthy people today. Whether it is the endless parade of angry, bitter people highlighted on the latest afternoon talk show, the increasing rate of aberrant sexual behavior, or the systematic disintegration of the family, it is obvious that we are a nation with many unhealthy, insecure people. Can this be changed? Absolutely. However, it will not be through government programs, through scholastic education, or even economic revitalization. It will come one individual at a time. Each person must discover the answer to these four questions. These are simple questions, but will influence every relationship a person has.

Four Questions Every Person On Earth Wants Answered

DO I MATTER? - Derivatives of this question are asked cosmically with questions like, “Am I an accident?” “Was I Created?” What does the World have to say about the origin of man? That we came from a pool of cosmic sludge, that we jumped out, jumped back in, jumped back out, grew legs, became a monkey and that we were on our way to becoming a man. We have been told we were some cosmic accident. There is no design or purpose for us here. What does God's Word Say? That man is an intentional creation of God. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
AM I LOVED? - One of the greatest desire mankind want to know is a simple question of, “Am I loved?” This question can be asked in ways such as, “Am I of Value?” or “Am I Appreciated?” The Bible tells us that God loves and values each of us. But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8
WHY AM I HERE? - “What is my Purpose in Life?” “Can I Make A Difference?” Have you discover why God made you the way He did? He designed you with a specific purpose in mind. Have you determined God’s Purpose for your life? "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
IS THERE HOPE FOR ME? - Once a person has determined that they matter to their Creator, that they are loved by that Creator, and that their Creator has a wonderful plan for their life, they want to know if they can change to fit that Plan. What was cannot be changed . . . What will be is determined by the choices we make today. There is hope! Never forget that there is hope! Therefore, if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17

Parents, do your children know that they matter, are loved, and have purpose? Employers, do your employees know they matter, are of value, and have purpose to you and your company? When a person cannot answer these questions . . . they will not be able to maintain a balanced, healthy life.

What Is A Bulldog's Nose Slanted Backwards?

2006-06-10T20:05:00.000-07:00

Years ago I read a book by John Mason called The Enemy Called Average. In his book, he had a chapter entitled “The Nose of the Bulldog is Slanted Backward so He can Continue to Breathe Without Letting Go!”

What makes the difference between a winner and loser? Often times one thing: Persistence! Persistent people begin their success where most others quit. One person with commitment, persistence and endurance will accomplish more than a thousand people with interest alone.

The Bible says “Such a large crowd of witnesses is all around us! So we must get rid of everything that slows us down, especially the sin that just won’t let go. And we must be determined to run the race that is set before us." Hebrews 12:1 (CEV)

What Are Three Keys To Success?

Persistence: The more diligently we work, the harder it is to quit. Persistence is habit; so is quitting.
Performance: Never worry about how much money, ability or equipment you are starting with. Just begin with a million dollar's worth of determination. Consider the postage stamp. Its usefulness consists in the ability to stick to something until it gets there.
Patience: In the Far East, the people plant a tree called the Chinese Bamboo. During the first four years they water and fertilize the plant seemingly with no results. Then the fifth year they again apply water and fertilizer - and in five weeks' time the tree grows ninety feet in height! The obvious question is did the Chinese Bamboo Tree grow ninety feet in five weeks or did it grow ninety feet in five years? The answer is: it grew ninety feet in five years. Because if at any time during those five years the people had stopped watering and fertilizing the tree it would have died.

There are many times that our dreams and plans do not appear to be succeeding. We are tempted to give up and quit trying. Instead, we need to continue to water and fertilize those dreams and plans, nurturing the seeds of the dream and vision God has placed within us.

Because we know that if we do not quit, if we display perseverance and endurance, we will also reap a harvest. Galatians 6:7

Remember: It is not what you have, it is what you do with what you have that makes all the difference! Don't Give Up!!!

Is Common Courtesy Gone For Good?

2006-06-03T15:04:00.000-07:00

Politeness is the cornerstone on any civilized society. In essence, it is respect for other people's feelings. This respect is reflected in both thought and action . . . in considering other people's points of view and behaving in sensitive ways. Unfortunately, in many areas of life, politeness seems to be outdated. Please understand, I am no "Miss Manners"(or "Mr. Manners" for that matter), but simple manners are essential in effective relationships. Regardless of the relationship, simple manners communicate that other people are important and that they matter.

Three Simple Manners

Say Please - How many times were we reprimanded as children for grabbing something without asking, "Please, may I have this?" A person who consistently does not say please indicates that he or she feels entitled to have something without asking. Saying please communicates value to the person both asking and being asked.

Say Thank You - The Bible tells a story of how Jesus healed ten lepers of their disease. They immediately began to celebrate, and in their excitement, nine of them did not think to return to thank Jesus. Were they grateful? Absolutely. Then why didn't they express their gratitude? Perhaps they were too busy or just did not think of it; or they thought Jesus would know they were thankful. In any case, only one took the time to return and say a simple, "Thank You." When was the last time you expressed gratitude to the waiter at the restaurant, an attendant at the car wash, your associates at work, or even those at home? It is amazing -- the power of "Thank You."

Respect Others - We live in an incredibly diverse society. Different backgrounds, different religions, and different values are all pervasive in America. There is a difference between disagreeing and disrespecting. Always treat people with respect - - even when you disagree with them - - perhaps especially if you disagree with them. There is never a good reason to show disrespect for another person.

"So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you." Matthew 7:12

Here is a wonderful relationship principle: Treat others the way you want to be treated. We all want to be treated as someone special, someone loved, someone respected, or someone valued. How can you do this? Simple: Treat them the same way you want to be treated! Treat others with simple, common courtesy! It shows that you value others!

Taking A Risk

2006-05-27T16:16:00.000-07:00

Over the past few days I have been rereading a book I picked up about 6 years ago. The book is Failing Forward – Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones for Success by John Maxwell. Maxwell is a prolific writer whose books are filled with salient observations.

This week for the Life Lesson, I thought I would share with you the outline from Chapter 11 entitled, “Take A Risk-There is No Other Way to Fail Forward.”

To achieve any worthy goal, you must take risks. Decide whether or not the goal is worth the risks involved. If it is, stop worrying. The reality is that everything in life is risky. If you want to avoid all risk, then don’t do any of the following:

Don’t ride in an automobile—they cause 20 percent of all fatal accidents.
Don’t travel by air, rail, or water—16 percent of all accidents result from these activities.
Don’t walk in the street—15 percent of all accidents occur there.
Don’t stay at home—17 percent of all accidents happen there.”

In life, there are no safe places or risk free activities. Everything in life brings risk. It’s true that you risk failure if you try something bold because you might miss it. But you also risk failure if you stand still and don’t try anything new. The less you venture out, the greater your risk of failure. Ironically the more you risk failure--and actually fail—the greater your chances of success.

When it come to taking risks, I believe there are two kinds of people: those who don’t dare try new things, and those who don’t dare miss them.

Don’t Dare Try It People

1. They resist opportunities.

2. They rationalize their responsibilities

3. They rehearse impossibilities

4. They rain on enthusiasm

5. They review their inadequacies

6. They recoil at the failure of others

7. They reject the personal cost involved lifestyle

8. They replace goals with pleasure

9. They rejoice that they have not failed

10. They rest before they finish

11. They resist leadership

12. They remain unchanged

13. They replay the problems

14. They rethink their commitment

15. They reverse their decision
Motto: I would rather try nothing great and succeed than try something great and risk failure.

Don’t Dare Miss It People

1. They find opportunities.

2. They finish their responsibilities

3. They feed on impossibilities

4. The fan the flame of enthusiasm

5. They face their inadequacies

6. They figure out why others failed

7. They finance the cost into their lifestyle

8. The find pleasure in the goal

9. They fear futility, not failure

10. They finish before they rest

11. They follow leaders

12. They force change

13. They fish for solutions

14. They fulfill their commitments

15. They finalize their decision

Motto: I would rather try something great and fail than try nothing great and succeed.

When it come to taking risks, I believe there are two kinds of people: those who don’t dare try new things, and those who don’t dare miss them.

Traps That Make People Back Away From Risk

If risk has such great potential reward, then why don’t people embrace it as a friend? I believe they don’t because they tend to fall into one or more of the following six traps:

1. The Embarrassment Trap - Deep down, nobody wants to look bad. And if you take a risk and fall flat on your face, you might embarrass yourself. So what? Get over it. The only way to become better is to take steps forward—even shaky ones that cause you to fall down. Little progress is better than no progress at all. Success comes in taking many small steps. If you stumble in a small step, it rarely matters. Don’t gift wrap the garbage. Let little failures go.

2. The Rationalization Trap - People who are caught in the rationalization trap second-guess everything they do, and as they prepare to take action, they say to themselves. “Maybe it’s really not that important.” But the truth is, if you wait long enough, nothing is important. Or as Ed’s Fifth rule of Procrastination states, “Spend sufficient time confirming the need, and the need will disappears.”

3. The Unrealistic Expectation Trap - For some reason, many people think everything in life should be easy, and when they find out that achievement takes effort, they give up. But success takes hard work. Consider this Latin proverb: “If there is no wind, row.” As you prepare to take a risk, don’t expect to get a favorable wind.

4. The Fairness Trap - Life isn’t fair. Many people never learn that fact. Instead of acknowledging it and moving on, they expend their energy trying to find fairness. They say to themselves, “I shouldn’t have to be the one to do this.” Dick Butler expands on this idea: “Life isn’t fair. It isn’t going to be fair. Stop sniveling and shining and go out and make it happen for you.”

5. The Timing Trap - Some people tend to think that there’s a perfect time to do everything—and this isn’t it. So they wait. If you wait for perfect timing, you’ll wait forever. And the more you wait, the more tired you’ll get.

6. The Inspiration Trap - Someone once, said, “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” Many people want to wait for inspiration before they are willing to step out and take a risk. When it comes to moving forward, Bill Glass gives this advice: “When you get an insight or inspiration, do something about I in twenty-four hour—or the odds are against your ever acting on it.”

Let me highly recommend Maxwell’s Book, “Failing Forward.” If you aren’t in a position to be able to get one – see me – I will loan you mine … but it is highlighted heavily!

Three Philosophies of Life

2006-05-21T15:06:00.000-07:00

There is a marvelous story found in Luke 10:30-37. It is the story of a man who was beaten, robbed, and left for dead on the side of the road. Several people passed by, some looked, some showed concern, but only one stopped. This story demonstrates three attitudes in every day life. You will see them in offices, in churches, just about everywhere in life.

Three Types of People

What Is Yours Is Mine – This was the attitude of the Robbers. People who want whatever they see and will do whatever is necessary to get it demonstrate this attitude. These people are selfish and think that everyone around them owes them something, just because they are there. “Selfish people cause trouble, but you will live a full life if you trust the Lord.” Proverbs 28:24 “Greed has two twins, each named, ‘Give me!’” Proverbs 30:15a

What Is Mine is Mine and What is Yours is Yours - This was the attitude of the Priest and Levite who did not stop and help the man who had been beaten and robbed. “You do your job, I’ll do my job – just leave me alone” demonstrates it. These people exude arrogance – “I am too good to help you, and I will never need your help.” Remember, what goes around comes around. “Do not get tired of helping others. You will be rewarded when the time is right, if you do not give up.” Galatians 6:7 “If you do not do what you know is right, you have sinned.” James 4:17

What Is Mine Is Yours – This is the attitude demonstrated by the Samaritan when he stopped and helped the man who had been beaten, robbed, and left for dead. This is a true picture of a person who is willing to help others around him . . .even when it is not convenient. This is a true picture of a leader. “Care about each other as much as you care about yourselves.” Philippians 2:4a

Which of these Philosophies Represents You?

I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; And because I cannot do everythingI will not refuse to do the something that I can do. Edward Everett Hale

When You Have Been Betrayed

2006-05-13T19:54:00.000-07:00

(Matthew 26:14-16 NIV) "Then one of the Twelve--the one called Judas Iscariot--went to the chief priests {15} and asked, "What are you willing to give me if I hand him over to you?" So they counted out for him thirty silver coins. {16} From then on Judas watched for an opportunity to hand him over."

(Matthew 26:47-50 NIV) "While he was still speaking, Judas, one of the Twelve, arrived. With him was a large crowd armed with swords and clubs, sent from the chief priests and the elders of the people. {48} Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them: "The one I kiss is the man; arrest him." {49} Going at once to Jesus, Judas said, "Greetings, Rabbi!" and kissed him. {50} Jesus replied, "Friend, do what you came for." Then the men stepped forward, seized Jesus and arrested him."

When betrayal comes, what do you do? Get out? Get angry? Get even? You have to deal with it somehow. How did Jesus treat being betrayed.

I. JESUS CALLED JUDAS FRIEND

(Matthew 26:50 NIV) "Jesus replied, "Friend, do what you came for." Then the men stepped forward, seized Jesus and arrested him."

II. JESUS KNEW THAT JUDAS HAD BEEN SEDUCED BY A POWERFUL FOE

Perhaps you don't like that idea. Perhaps the thought of forgiveness is unrealistic to you. Perhaps the idea of trying to understand your Judases is simply to gracious.

(John 16:33 NIV) ""I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.""

III. JESUS LOOKED TO THE FUTURE

While going through hell on earth, Jesus kept His Eyes of heaven.
While surrounded by enemies, He kept His Mind of His Father.
While abandoned on earth, He kept His Heart on Home.

Jesus took a long look into the homeland. Long enough to see His friends.

(Matthew 26:53 NIV) "Do you think I cannot call on my Father, and he will at once put at my disposal more than twelve legions of angels?"

And seeing them up there gave Him strength here on earth.

So what should we do when we are Betrayed?

I. JESUS CALLED JUDAS FRIEND - Offer them Compassion.
II. JESUS KNEW THAT JUDAS HAD BEEN SEDUCED BY A POWERFUL FOE - Offer them Understanding.
III. JESUS LOOKED TO THE FUTURE - Keep your Eyes Focused on Jesus Christ.

I can't do this - it's impossible!

Philippians 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me."

Burnout!

2006-05-06T19:08:00.000-07:00

How many times have you felt fatigued, bored, depressed, cynical, irritable, impatient, and maybe even a tad bit paranoid? Yet, there is no particular crisis or problem you can see to explain your “funk.” These negative feelings may be due to some level of burnout.

Burnout is not just a 20^th century problem. Elijah, an Old Testament Prophet, faced burnout. He had just won a mighty victory, experienced an emotional high and then crashed - - and crashed hard. Look how burnout effected him and what he did about it. Perhaps we all can learn from his experience.

What Happens When We Burnout?

Burnout Causes Us To Doubt Our Abilities. It also causes us to throw major pity parties. “I have had enough! Just let me die! I am no better than my ancestors.” 1 Kings 19:4
Burnout Causes Us To Evade Our Responsibilities. Burnout victims often leave tasks undone, leaving others in a lurch. “Elijah, why are you here?” 1 Kings 19:9
Burnout Causes Us to Blame Others for Our Situation. It is not me, it is every one else! I do not have a problem . . . everyone else does. Oh really? “I have done my best to obey you, but every one else broke their promise to you.” 1 Kings 19:10
Burnout Causes Us To Blur the Facts. Life often appears far, far worse than it really is. “I am the only one left.” 1 Kings 19:20

So What Do You Do When You Are Burning Out?

Make Sure You Get Enough Rest and Food. You will never be a consistent performer until you are consistent in these areas. “He lay down under a tree and fell asleep . . . Get up and eat.” 1 Kings 19:5-6
Spend Time with God - Take Your Cares, Frustrations and Feelings to God - Be Honest With God. God is big enough to listen. Talk to Him – He is available 24 hours a day! “Lord, I have done my best to obey you.” 1 Kings 19:10
Realize God is Still in Control. Unfortunately, we often think that it is our job to control everything. “I want you to see Me when I pass by.” 1 Kings 19:11
Realize It Is Probably Not As Bad As You First Feared. A fresh perspective can do wonders. “You are not alone, 7,000 have also obeyed.” 1 Kings 19:18 para

Now, have you prepared for the day?

What is the Difference Between Failure and a Setback?

2006-04-29T18:16:00.000-07:00

Failure Or Setback?

Have you ever failed or made a mistake? Have you ever not hit the goal you were shooting for? Good, then this is for you. The fact that you have failed is proof that you are not finished. Failures and mistakes can be a bridge, not a barricade to success. Failure may look like a fact, but it is just an opinion. Successful people believe that mistakes are just feedback. It is not how far you fall, but how high you bounce that makes all the difference.

Four Steps To Rebound From A Setback

Remember That No One Is Immune To Setbacks - Everyone makes mistakes. Even the greatest athletes do not make the plays every time. Lance Berkman does not hit home runs every time. David Carr does not throw touchdown passes every time. Even Michael Jordan did not make every shot. The only perfect person who never failed was Jesus Christ - and face it, you are not Him! "Anyone who refuses to admit his mistakes can never be successful. But if he confesses and forsakes them, he gets another chance." Proverbs. 28:13 (LB)

Discover What Went Wrong - Failure is a great teacher, but it is not our undertaker. Failure is a delay, not a defeat. A successful person is big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them and strong enough to correct them. Ask yourself some questions: What went wrong? Did I not plan well? Did I miss something or have the wrong goal? What could I have done different? Find out what when wrong - then fix it!

Learn the Lesson and Forget the Details - When you learn what was wrong, make it right. Shore up your weak spots. Vernon Sander says, "Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, then the lesson afterwards." Experience is what you get when you are looking for something else. The experience of failure will always make you bitter or better. The choice is yours. The good news is that God has no plans that end in failure for His Children. "I will bless you with a future filled with hope - a future of success, not of suffering." Jeremiah 29:11 (CEV)

Do Not Give Up! - Do not sit out just because you have failed. Do no quit. You will probably learn more from your failures than you ever will by your success. Success consists of getting up just one time more than you fell down. "You don't drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there." So get up and go on!

"Forget what is behind, and struggle for what is ahead. Run toward the goal so that one can win the prize! Philippians 3:13-14 (para)

What is the difference between Failure and A Setback? Just One Thing: QUITTING! So, Do Not Give up!

Is Your Life Consistant?

2006-04-22T20:03:00.000-07:00

Are You Tossed To and Fro or Experiencing an Even Flow?

On of the biggest challenges in life today is to keep things on an even keel. Life is filled with up and downs, serenity and turmoil, drudgery and ecstasy, pleasure and pain -- sometimes all in the same day. Not only is this true of life, it is true in marriage, business and almost all other relationships. How do you stay levelheaded when all those around you are losing theirs?

Four Keys To a Stable, Consistent Life

Watch Whom You Listen To - "God blesses those people who refuse evil advice ….” - There are times in our lives that we seek advice from other people. There are many sources of advice that are out there. Volumes of books are written about almost every subject from business leadership to familial relations. The question to evaluate all counsel is: Does it square with God's Word? That is the ultimate question.

Watch Who You Follow & Spend Time With - "God blesses those people who... won't follow sinners and won't join in sneering at God. " - You can tell a lot by a person when you find out who his heros are. Who is your hero? Who is your mentor? Who is it you look to and say, "I wanna be like him!" We can look to Jesus Christ and say, I want to live like Him. Be careful whom you emulate. John 13:15 (NIV) "I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you." Be careful who you spend time with. You cannot run with the dogs and not get fleas. You cannot roll in the mud with the swine and expect to remain clean. You cannot soar with the eagles when you have been playing with the turkeys! (Proverbs 14:7 CEV) "Stay away from fools, or you won't learn a thing."

Choose To Follow God's Laws - "God blesses those people who ... the Law of the Lord makes them happy…." What rules do you play by, the worlds rules or God's rules? Your answer will effect the way you raise your children, run your business or treat your spouse. (Psalm 37:3 para) "Trust in the Lord and do what is right; if you do this God will bless your life."

Concentrate On Pleasing Him - "God blesses those people who… think about it day and night." - Who are you ultimately trying to please? Are you living for the here and now or storing up treasure in heaven? Are your values temporal or eternal?

"God blesses those people who refuse evil advice and won't follow sinners or join in sneering at God. Instead, the Law of the Lord makes them happy and they think about it day and night." Psalm 1:1-2

The Power of Words

2006-04-14T06:40:00.000-07:00

One of the easiest ways to determine what a person is like is to listen to his words. Words betray a person. The Bible says that kind people speak kind words and that evil-hearted people have words filled with harm.

People who have learned this find that words spoken either can destroy people or be used to build people up. Words are incredibly powerful. They can build up a relationship, a company, even a church or the can destroy them just a quickly. Words are incredibly powerful.

What Are Some Ways Words Can Destroy?

Through Lies - Are the words you speak true and honest? Or are you deceptive in your words and business practices? "The Lord hates every liar, but He is a friend of all who can be trusted." Proverbs 12:22
Through Words of Anger - You have heard it before, but counting to ten before opening your mouth has helped many relationships. "A kind answer soothes angry feelings, but harsh words stir them up." Proverbs 15:1
Through Gossip - Would you say that about them if there were standing next to you? Would you want someone to say that about you? "Gossip is no good! It causes hard feelings and comes between friends." Proverbs 16:28

What Are Some Ways Words Can Build?

Through Words of Encouragement - Speak words that encourage others. Any fool can tear something down, but it takes a wise man to build up something or someone. "Kind words are like honey - they cheer you up and make you feel strong." Proverbs 16:24
Through Words of Good Report - No matter how hard you have to look, find something good and talk about it! "If you can't say anything good, then don't say anything at all!" "Focus your attention on whatever is true, pure, right, holy, friendly and proper. Don't ever stop thinking about what is truly worthwhile and worthy of praise." Philippians 4:8
Through Words of Cheerfulness - Speak kind words that bring joy and healing to people. "Sharp words cut like a sword, but words of wisdom heal." Proverbs 12:18

Consider this short poem entitled “Power of Words:”
A careless word may kindle strife
A cruel word may wreak a life
A bitter word may hate instill
A brutal word may smite and kill

A gracious word may smooth the way
A joyous word may light the day
A timely word may lessen stress
A loving word may heal and bless

Is This Right or Is This Wrong?

2006-04-08T07:29:00.000-07:00

Right or Wrong? That is the Question!

Six Ways To Tell Right From Wrong

The Common Sense Test - Are you simply being foolish? How would you judge someone else if they did the same thing? “For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” Matthew 7:2 NIV
The Sportsmanship Test - Are you playing fair? How would you feel if someone else did the same thing to you? If it is not right for everyone, it is probably not right for anyone. “Treat others the way you would want them to treat you.” Matthew 7:12 CEV
The Best Self-Test - Are you trying to be the best that you can be? Will it help you become a better person? “Work hard at whatever you do.” Ecclesiastes 9:10 CEV
The Publicity Test - If everyone knew what you were doing, would you still do it? It is surprising how the light of public knowledge changes our perspective and our behavior. “In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:16 NIV
The Most Admired Person Test – Would the person you most admired do this? If you told that person about it, would you feel proud or ashamed? “Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.” 1 Peter 2:21 NIV
The Foresight Test – What can possibly go wrong? Could you live with the consequences? “Do not brag about tomorrow! Each day brings its own surprises.” Proverbs 27:1 CEV

Right is right, even if everyone is against it; and wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it. William Penn

Being Scared to Death!

2006-04-01T17:37:00.000-08:00

The Worst Liars In The World Are Your Own Fears

Look At What Fear Does

Fear Makes You Stop Growing In Potential - Fear keeps your talents locked up, holds you back and causes you to miss opportunities. Are you afraid to try something new just because you are afraid? One of the greatest discoveries you can make is to find that you can do what you are afraid you cannot do.
Fear Makes You Stop Reaching Out In Your Relationships - Fear prevents you from being honest with people. You fear rejection, so you wear a mask, pretend to be what you are not, and then deny what you really feel. Fear also keeps you from making commitments. You may be afraid of being hurt again. Fear prevents true intimacy because fearful people have a hard time giving and receiving love. Your fears affect everyone you relate to.
Fear Makes You Stop Enjoying Life - You cannot be happy and fearful at the same time. An old man was asked what had robbed him of joy in his life. His answer was, "Things that never happened." How often are you worn out by your worries?
Fear Makes You Stop Striving For Success In Life - How many decisions have you made based on fear? How many times have you sold yourself short because of fear? False Emotions Appearing Real.

What Should You Do With Your Fears?

Pray - "Don’t worry about anything, but pray about everything." Philippians 4:6a CEV
Turn It over To God - "God cares for you, so turn all of your worries over to Him." 1 Peter 5:7 CEV
Trust Him - "When I am afraid, I keep trusting you. I praise your promises! I trust you and am not afraid. No one can harm me." Psalm 56:3-4 CEV

How to Handle Criticism

2006-03-28T21:08:00.000-08:00

A monk joined a monastery and took a vow of silence. After the first 10 years, his superior called him in and asked, "Do you have anything to say?” The monk replied, "Food bad.” After another 10 years, the monk again had an opportunity to voice his thoughts. He said, "Bed hard.” Another 10 years went by and again he was called in before his superior. When asked if he had anything to say, he responded, "I quit.” "It doesn't surprise me a bit. You have done nothing but complain ever since you got here."

John Mason in You’re Born An Original, Don’t Die A Copy, writes, “You can always spot a failure by the way he criticizes success. Those who can – do. Those who can not – criticize. Those who complain about the way the ball bounces are often the ones who dropped it in the first place. If it were not for the doers, the critics would soon be out of business. Envy provides the mud that failures throw at success. Whoever criticizes to you will criticize about you. If someone belittles you, he is only trying to cut you down to his size.”

So, How Does One Handle The Critics?

One should listen to it & evaluate the merit of it. Evaluate the merit of the criticism independent of the person: Is the critic accurate? Do they have a legitimate concern? Often this involves time of speculation and prayer. This is why it is good to surround yourself with godly people who can help you with this process. “Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance—“ (Proverbs 1:5 NIV)

Secondly, look at the source of the criticism. What is their intent? Do they have an agenda in mind? Are they chronic complainers? “Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure and right.” (Proverbs 20:11 NIV)

Finally, determine if action should be taken, whether it be a change or an apology. Correction and self-control will lead you through life.” (Proverbs 6:23b)

But Its Not My Fault!

2006-03-25T06:39:00.000-08:00

Hey! It's Not My Fault!

I recently came across a list of "Ten Television Talk Show Myths" that was very enlightening. It seems that many people have adopted these "myths" as facts and now operate their lives by them.

All of your problems are somebody else’s fault.
The world owes you happiness.
You will be happy if you get what you want.
There is never any reason to feel guilty.
Man is basically good and unselfish.
All beliefs are equally valid.
Pornography and perversion are innocent.
You can have it all.
You should not have to wait for anything.
Because you are God, the answer lies within you.

Are there answers to these "myths?" There are many, but one is obvious ... Each of us is responsible for his or her own actions.

Steps Towards Accepting Responsibility

Be Responsible For Who You Are - You are a wonderful creation of God. You are His Child. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God has created you to be His companion. You are a wonderful creation of God. . . . Now act like it. Psalm 139:14 "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."

Be Responsible For What You Can Do - " I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; And because I cannot do everything - I will not refuse to do the something that I can do." Edward Everette Hale "If you do not do what you know is right, you have sinned." James 4:17

Be Responsible For What You Have Received - What has God given you? Talents? Money? Family? God expects more out of a stick of dynamite than He does out of a firecracker. “From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” Luke 12:48b

Be Responsible To God - One day we must realize that we ultimately will answer to God - for our actions and how we treated others. “So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God.” Romans 14:12

Take Charge - Be Responsible!

Kiss and a Hug

2006-03-21T19:36:00.000-08:00

Most people who read these articles are parents. Your children may be young, grown or at some stage in between, but there is something that they (we) all need. A number of years ago, Ken Coleman, Pastor of First Baptist Church in Godely, Texas, said each child needs a "kiss and a hug." By the way, I am 51 and I still like getting these from my parents! You are never too old to give or get "kisses and hugs".

Kiss & A Hug

K - Kindness - Kids need kindness. That sounds simplistic, but how many times do we forget to be kind to our children? With all the hustle and bustle of everyday life, kindness is sometimes left in the dust.
I - Intimacy - Intimacy means fully known and still loved. How well do you know your child? Do you know his strengths, weaknesses, habits, friends, and favorite music? Intimacy knows all of these things, and loves them anyway.
S - Stability - Providing stability means there are absolutes in his life, parameters for his protection and the protection of others. Are you consistent in enforcing the rules? One of the basic laws of physics is that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. Does your child know this about his behavior?
S - Special - Show him how special and unique he is because of who he is - - not because of what he did. Every person is a unique creation of God. Of course, some are more unique than others! However, God fearfully and wonderfully makes each of us. Does you child know you think he is special?

And then a ...

H - Helpfulness - Being a kid is much more difficult than it used to be. Kids are faced with things as children that you and I were not faced with until much later in life. Do you help your children with life?
U - Understanding - No one has a perfect child. All kids mess up, fail, and blow it at one time or another. How understanding are you of your children when they do not live up to your expectations? Are your expectations at a level even you cannot live up to? How understanding are you of your children?
G- Guidance - Are you providing guidance for your children? If you are not, who is?

"Children are a blessing and a gift from the Lord." Psalm 127:3

"I will praise you because of the wonderful way You created me. Everything You do is marvelous!" Psalm 139:14

Go! Kiss and Hug your kids today!

Who is Setting Your Agenda?

2006-03-19T17:43:00.000-08:00

Why Do You Do What You Do?

John Mason in his book, "An Enemy Called Average" writes this: "Do you know that God made you for a purpose? He has a job for you that no one else can do as well as you. Out of the billions of applicants, only one is qualified, only one has the right combination of what it takes. God has given people the measure of faith to do what He has called them to do. Every person is gifted. Have you found what God created you to do?"

Have you stopped and asked yourself why you do what you do? There has to be a reason, but somehow many of us simply never stop to ask ourselves the question: Why am I doing this? Who is it that sets my agenda? Could it be:

People's Expectations - Everyone expects me to do it! Moreover, "Everybody is doing it!"
Tradition - Well, we have always done it this way before in this department.
Sense of Urgency - It has to be done now - because no one did it earlier.
Insecurity of Inaction - Busy-ness - The world depends on me.

Three Keys To A Directed Life

Know Who You Areand What Your Are To Be Doing- Jesus was secure in the fact that He knew who He was. He knew what His purpose on earth was. ". . . I can preach there also. That is why I have come.” Mark 1:38 Do you know what your purpose is? Do you know why God has placed you where you are? God has designed you for a specific purpose. Discover what that purpose is, then chart a path!
Know When To Stop- There will always be more work to do. It never stops, but you can not help people when you are empty yourself. When you define what you will do, you also define what you will not do. Who determines when you stop, where you go? Who sets your course? Who determines your priorities? The disciples thought they knew what was best, but Jesus listened to a different voice. Whose voice are you listening to? “Everyone is looking for you!” Jesus replied, “Let us go somewhere else—to the nearby villages—so I can preach there also. That is why I have come.”” Mark 1:37-38
Start Your Day With God- If you want to discover your purpose and your direction, there is no better place to start than to start it with God. “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed. Mark 1:35. Let Him set your agenda for the day.

Do What You Do Today On Purpose!

Is It Really That Bad? How Is Your Attitude?

2006-03-14T19:18:00.000-08:00

Have you ever thought you had a bad day? Listen to the story of Mr. Jones:

“One day Mrs. Jones decided to get rid of some bad hair spray that she had. She decided that a good way to get rid of it would be to spray it into the commode. Shortly afterward, Mr. Jones came home. As was his usual custom, he went to the reading room (bathroom) to relax. As soon as he was comfortably seated, he lit a cigarette and tossed the match between his legs into the commode. You guessed it; the hair spray exploded and blew Mr. Jones heavenwards (sidewards). Unfortunately for Mr. Jones, the shower bar stopped his assent. So after the ambulance arrived, the driver asked Mrs. Jones how Mr. Jones got both a burnt backside and a concussion at the same time. She began to explain what happened as the ambulance attendants were carrying Mr. Jones downstairs. The ambulance drivers were so tickled about the story they dropped Mr. Jones down the stairs and broke both of his arms. Poor Mr. Jones. It definitely was not his day. He suffered one burned backside, one concussion and two broken arms.” Charles Lowrey - SBC Life - October 1995. p. 10

Agreed - Mr. Jones definitely had a bad day. However, not all of our days that we label bad are as bad as Mr. Jones. Actually - The majority of days are exactly what we make them to be. Many things effect out days from the outside; many circumstances are outside of our control. However, there is one thing that no one sees on the inside - it is something called attitude. So how is your attitude today?

How Important Is Your Attitude?????

Your Attitude Determines Your Approach to Life.
Your Attitude Determines Your Relationship With People.
Often Your Attitude Is the Only Difference Between Success and Failure.
Your Attitude at the Beginning of the Task Will Affect its Outcome More Than Anything Else.
Your Attitude Can Turn Your Problems Into Blessings.

The Bible says, "Is your life full of difficulties...? BE HAPPY, for when the way is rough, your patience has a chance to grow. So let it grow and do not try to squirm out of your problems. For when your patience is finally in full bloom, then you'll be ready for anything, strong in character, full and complete." James 1:2-4 (LB)

Remember - Only You Control Your Attitude!!!

Seven Traits of Highly Effective Leaders

2006-03-11T18:37:00.000-08:00

A wonderful illustration of leadership is found in the story of an amateur golfer who hit his ball into the rough. After searching for several minutes, he finally located it, sitting right on top of a large anthill. He squared up, took a big swing-- missing the ball completely. Hundreds of innocent ants died. He stepped back, swung again-- and missed, killing even more ants. The ball was still sitting there: but by now, the ants were panicking. As they were scurrying in every direction, one ant finally had an idea. "Follow me," he shouted authoritatively. "OK," said another ant, "but where are we going?" The first ant pointed to the golf ball in front of them and said, "It's obvious if we don't get on the ball, we're all going to die!"

The Manager’s Intelligence Report from Ragan Communications featured an excellent article on Leadership. The article listed seven specific actions that successful leaders carry out, regardless of the organization or cause they lead.What Are The Seven Traits?

An Effective Leader Makes Others Feel Important - If goals and decisions are self-centered, followers lose their enthusiasm quickly. “Be humble and consider others more important than yourself.” Philippians 2:3b
An Effective Leader Promotes a Vision - Followers need a clear idea of where you are leading them .An effective leader provides that vision. “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” Proverbs 29:18
An Effective Leader Follows the Golden Rule - An abusive leader attracts few loyal followers. “Treat others as you want them to treat you.” Matthew 7:12a
An Effective Leader Admits Mistakes - If you cover up your mistakes, those you lead will do so, too “He who hides his mistakes will not prosper, but whoever confesses and turns from them finds mercy.” Proverbs 29:13
An Effective Leader Criticizes Other Only in Private - Public praises encourage others to excel, but public criticism only embarrasses and alienates everyone. “Making up with a friend you have offended is harder than breaking through a walled city.” Proverbs 18:19
An Effective Leader Stays Involved In the Action - You need to be visible to the members of your organization. “Work hard, and you will be a leader; be lazy, and you will end up a slave.” Proverbs 12:24
An Effective Leader Makes a Game of Competition - The competitive drive can be a valuable tool if used correctly. Set team goals, and reward members who meet or exceed them. “Just as iron sharpens iron, friends sharpen the minds of each other.” Proverbs 27:17

How many of these traits can you work to improve?